The ninth episode of this season of Girls has us all asking some questions. How do you see people? How do people see you? This episode is fraught with the complexities of admitting you see people differently than you’ve always believed, admitting other people see you differently than you’ve always believed, and attempting to level those two realizations with each other.
Hannah finally finishes the fight with Fran, who really can’t seem to let go that he’s being dumped. She literally stranded herself to try and end your relationship, dude. Take a hint from Elsa, and “Let It Go.” Not only is Hannah moving on from him, but also the lifestyle she lived with him, including her teaching job. The first glimpse of this episode’s theme is when Hannah apologizes for flashing her vag at the principal, who forgives her and comments on her spirit and joie de vivre. I think I might have gone more into the aspect of sexually harassing someone who hasn’t consented to you flashing your vag at them, but if everyone is okay now, I suppose the moment for calling the cops is past. Hannah later meets up with an old frenemy Tally (Jenny Slate). Casting for this character was stunning, as I find Jenny Slate both hilarious and that she has emotional depth. Tally admits to not living the life she always thought, or rather once she got to this point of famous, she assumed it would be different. Instead she spends her days Googling herself, getting high, and using an electronic toothbrush for pleasure. Everyone should Google themselves at least once. My name is shared by a ceramics artist and a player of the Sydney Symphony Orchestra. I think the important moment here is that the life Hannah has been chasing is finally revealed to her and it isn’t what she always assumed. Not only that, but that her friend is living that life and is miserable.
Shosh makes her way down to Ray’s coffee place, only to find it empty. Her usual Shosh pep seems to be rejuvenated, perhaps from the sun or New York but more likely seeing someone who genuinely cares about her, and she throws herself at Ray’s mercy to help the coffee place. A true testament to how much Shoshanna has grown up in her friendship with Ray is that she doesn’t even bat an eye when he mentioned Hannah attempting to give him a blowie. Instead like a calm adult, she moves past it and begins helping out. The solution is to be anti-hipster. Which is admittedly, pretty freaking genius. The elitism of being a hipster is getting old. I think by now, being hipster is more commonplace than anything else. Ray and Hermie (Colin Quinn) see Shoshanna and her idea as a breath of fresh air.
Marnie is coming to terms with her husband (soon to be ex) Desi being overall the knob she never really saw him as before. Desi refuses to speak to her, and see her in any capacity that isn’t to further his own agenda. Yeah, I’m not sad that relationship is over. And she’s having all sorts of notions about Ray (so was she brushing his hair or the hair of their child? I’m confused). She sees Ray as her love and most likely her future, and maybe that’s something Ray can get behind. While I don’t mind their dynamic as a couple, Marnie really needs to just be single and happy. Everyone needs space after relationships end, especially if they end poorly. I’m hoping that won’t inhibit a future with Ray. Mayhaps she is more emotionally sound than I even thought.
Elijah takes the biggest step and opens himself up to more with Dill. He sees Dill as someone he can have a future with, and he hopes Dill sees him the same way. Oh man, that was a hard scene to watch. To me, there are few things in the world more gut-wrenching than putting yourself out there and having the other person swat you away. Especially in favor of someone else. Elijah has always kept emotions at a distance. I don’t think he ever wanted to admit to himself that he could feel deeply about people. Then once he does and he admits it, those feelings all come crashing down around him. My heart goes out to you. Dill doesn’t deserve you. He’s a hole. A Dill-hole.
How do you perceive those around you? How do others perceive you? Even if you asked, would they tell you the truth? That is always my fear in asking, is that they might feel differently and tell me what they think I want to hear. Maybe moving on from that is part of growing up and being an adult. That no matter what people believe about you, or what you perceive they believe, you are true to who you want to be and what you want to do. I know I’ve grown up a lot since I was 22, and I think these Girls have too.